Real Talk II

Man! So I just had a deep convo with one of my many adult kids and a light was shed for real! So Ima start with some questions: Why is a woman considered loose but a man a dog? Why do women stay with men that treat them wrong but flee from the ones who would treat them "right?" What does the "right" one look like and how do they treat you? And why do we in one minute worship the ground they walk on and then in the next hate that same ground.

Here is what the Real Talk is: We are so bent on being with someone that it sometimes doesnt matter who that person is. We dont realize the imperfections and things we normally wouldnt accept until its too late and then we are so deeply in "love" better known as lust that we excuse whats done to us most of the time. I say we and us because I was there for almost 10 years. This is what I know.

Women, I start with us ladies because we are the ones the enemy attacked first. Because his first words to Eve were a question, so mine are to you. Why does a dog return to its vomit? (Yes its pretty nasty but so can we be at times) The reason Proverbs says this is to line up the fact that when we return to the already dissolved, already taken care of WASTE which is no longer of use to us we are not that much better than a dog who doesn't know any better. Now Proverbs says that much like a dog who returns to its vomit, so is a fool that keeps doing the same thing!!!! It may not be with the same person but whatever you are allowing, whatever you keep returning to, whatever you keep wallowing in is THE SAME THING!! What we need to know is, the FIRST thing we need to know is we were made worthy because God loved us so much that He sent His ONLY Son to pay the debt that we rightly owe Him. Ladies when you lay down your body down for a man, or woman... but thats another Realk Talk session, let me let you in on what you really lay down. You lay down the right to be free from bondage, you lay down you dignity which is instilled in you but stifled from the enemy, you lay down the right to demand to be treated as a human and pick up being treated as a piece of cheap meat... (even a cheap turkey gets dressed up and nurtured in the oven before eaten), you lay down your gift that belongs to God until He BRINGS your husband to you, you lay down your soul to be tied to the man you lay down with, you lay down the opportunity to have a relationship for a 2 minute relation. Here let me make it pebble level for you Proverbs 11:22 says lie a gold ring in a pigs snout is a woman who shows NO discretion. Picture a pig having the expensive engagement ring you eye whenever you go into the jewelry store and dream of a man giving you in a romantic feet sweeping way. Why would a pig, dirty and nasty, only worrying about when it can eat again (lets not mention what they eat), wearing YOUR ring! Who put it there?? You did when you laid down.

God does not say dont have sex in the Bible... He only says to wait til He ordains it! And He is not going to ordain every new man you meet and wanna test like an expensive lemon on a used car lot. God says in His Word that it is not good for man to be alone... so He wants us to be with someone... but not EVERYONE or ANYONE! We women have become loose, bitter, angry and full of hatred towards men, when we are the ones to blame for our own hatred and misery. The man didnt tell you to do what he wanted, he only suggested and you accepted. He didnt make you join him in the lustful mockery of a relationship, you made that choice. He didnt get you pregnant on your own. Unless you were raped, you had your legs open for him. But now that same man who was the love of your life.... or night (lets be real) is now the disdain and cause of your misery because he is being just what he was when you were with him, you just couldnt see.... no wouldnt see it.

The good thing about Jesus is that He is the perfect man! He is who we need to be paying attention to when it comes to accepting a man. He never forces you to do a thing or forces himself on you, you have to choose Him. but once you do.... the romance never ceases. Even when you fall and commit adultery against Him, He still loves you and picks back up, takes the ring from the pigs nose, cleans it back up and gives it back to you. The song I just listened to, "Perfect Peace" by Marvin Sapp says it all.... "why should I be bound, when He has set me free?" I refuse... RE FUSE, to allow another man to hand me shackles to put back on myself! When will you choose freedom and peace instead of bondage and constant heartache covered over by instances of ecstasy?